The oxygen mask goes on YOU first
There’s more to self-care than a donut with a latte
Hello my friends, welcome to chapter 52 of Sanguine Stories. This month, we’ve been talking about the importance of taking time to Look Within, Sanguine Element #10.
And one of the things that is super important about looking within? Self Care. Making time to take care of yourself.
You were likely taught the golden rule at a very young age. You learned that you are supposed to treat others as you wish they would treat you.
Growing up you were likely taught to treat others as you would like to be treated, and even to put others first.
Somewhere between then and now you’ve de-prioritized yourself, and set aside your own mental and physical well-being.
What happened along the way to make you decide that you should focus all your worries on the care of others? And put aside your own mental and physical well-being.
It happens. To a lot of us. For many different reasons. It was one of the most common things I heard in my 5 day challenge group:
“I’m taking better care of others, and treating myself poorly.”
“There’s never any time to take care of myself, I have to take care of everyone else first.”
“I am never able to put myself first, I’m too busy managing everyone else’s problems.”
“I feel bad when I put myself first.”
Every time we travel on a plane, before take-off the airlines make it very clear – in the event of an emergency you put your own oxygen mask on first BEFORE trying to help anyone else.
But as an adult, out in the real world, not flying off to some paradise island, you may find yourself tasked with putting the needs of someone you love before your own, whether it is your children, partner, or aging parents. Or even perhaps it’s your work life that is taking priority over everything else.
Take a good look at how you treat, or mistreat, yourself throughout the day. Are you making time for yourself?
Taking time every day to think about and figure out who you are and what you want to be doing with your ONE beautiful life is a gentle way to get started with self-care. Through my DIY Wellness Retreat I can help you do just that……And just a reminder – because November is my birthday month, it’s on sale for 50% off! I’ll pop a link into the show notes so you can come check it out.
Okay, so what would happen if you flipped that common expression, the golden rule, around?
Do for yourself as you do for others.
Really. Take a moment and sit with that. Think of how you treat others, what you do for them. The time, energy and attention that you put into caring for other people in your everyday life.
Then take a look at how you treat yourself.
Are you eating well? Exercising? Making time for self care? When was the last time you read a book, took a bath or did some other activity that you love but can’t seem to make the time for? Even just taking a moment to slow down, be present and breathe?
And what happens when you don’t? Do you find yourself feeling more irritable, anxious, overwhelmed?
How to take care of yourself first
Go outside. Getting out of the house can improve your mental health as well as your physical health. Spending some time outdoors in nature can make us feel alive and those who do this are often more satisfied with life and suffer less mental stress.
Exercise. Making sure you get enough exercise can improve your mental outlook, lower blood pressure, and lower blood sugar levels in the body. It can also help you better manage daily stress and depression.
Help others. Helping others helps you, too. It can greatly boost your mental health and give you a general sense of well-being. Volunteer, make a donation of goods, services or money to someone in need.
Meditate. Taking just a few minutes each day to meditate can relieve stress and help your emotional stability.
Eat more fruit and vegetables. Adding more of these to your diet can help boost the brain’s health and keep your body in better shape to fight off disease and dis-ease.
Laugh. Have fun. Laughter can relieve tension in your body, reduce stress, help the immune system and can improve your overall quality of life.
Sleep. Sleep quality and quantity is essential for your well-being. If you don’t get the sleep your body needs, you become less productive and increase your chances for both physical and mental issues.
Last but not least…
Pause. Before you respond or react to something that is happening, pause, breathe and remind yourself to come back to the present moment. Check in with yourself.
I fully acknowledge how hard it can feel to get started. How about this – remember our Sanguine Duel Challenge from Chapter XX? Return to that activity or even – how about just aiming to be kinder to yourself than you were yesterday?
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Over the course of this solo retreat, you’ll envision then create the life you want, from the inside out.
Because… External circumstances will always come and go — life likes to throw its twists and turns — but it’s what’s inside you, how you use your inner compass, that really matters. And sometimes along the way, we forget who we are.
Soulfully Sanguine will not only help you remember but also act as a guide on your journey in life.
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As always, thank you for being a part of my community. Until next time, be simply sanguine.
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I’d love to hear from you…Do you choose to put yourself first or are you always putting your needs and desires on the back burner? How will you choose to find a balance? Can you even make a choice today to just simply aim to be kinder to yourself than you were yesterday? g
Chrissy Gruninger is an author and mindset coach. She mentors people on how to live their ONE beautiful life, wherever they may be. Her latest book, Lost and Found in the Land of Mañana explores her life in Costa Rica and both the challenges of working and living abroad as well as the beautiful life we can create from those experiences.
She loves her rainforest beach shack in Costa Rica, the sunshine and the rain and passionately believes that through intentional actions we create more happiness, health and harmony in the world.
Her goal: to empower others to thrive in an imperfect world.