Overcoming Obstacles to Being Happy
Make a Commitment
THE BARRIER BETWEEN YOU AND HAPPINESS
how to find it and what to do about it
Continuing with our month long look at the Sanguine Element, Making a Commitment, I wanted to explore a bit more about overcoming obstacles and being happy [which I also talked about in Chapter 23 of Sanguine Stories – 6 Ways to Live More Fully].
One thing that many of us have in common: the desire to improve our lives and become the best versions of ourselves.
Unfortunately, many of us never get to where we want to be – we never become our best versions as we all too often believe that we’re not good enough, we’re constantly searching for happiness, thinking the perfect life is just ahead of us, on the horizon.
If we could commit, we could experience the most positive transformations of our lives. But what that often means is stepping outside of our current everyday life and creating change – embracing new behaviors so that we may live a more happy, healthy and harmonious life.
However… that is easier said than done!
We cannot create the type of life that we desire if we can’t change some of the things we do on a daily basis. Life is what we make of it. Each day, we’re all given the same number of hours to show up and live our best life possible.
What is the first step towards making a change in our lives? Making a commitment. Choosing to transform our lives and commit to lasting change.
In making this commitment, we have to determine what is eating up our time right now, keeping us from moving forward.
Making a commitment means we must identify our priorities. Make a list of those things that we consider the most important and refocus so that our priorities are aligned.
So ask yourself: are you spending most of your time on high level activities that will help you live your best life possible? Or are you getting tripped up amongst the mundane and rote tasks or falling into patterns of watching too much Netflix or endlessly scrolling on Facebook?
You are the only one who can determine what is most important for you and your ONE beautiful life.
Here are 5 more obstacles that may be holding you back from living a more happy, healthy and harmonious life:
Comparing Yourself To Others
It is much easier these days to keep up with our relatives and friends via a filtered online version, without actually talking to them in real life. We tend to feel that the grass might be greener on the other side and admire it (or really, become jealous of it). You shouldn’t compare your life with others, but rather appreciate both what they have in their lives and also what you have in your life.
Make a commitment to yourself – to stop judging or dreaming about the lives of others and focus on yourself.
Assuming You Know The Next Turn of Events
Statistics and probability aside, no one knows what will happen next. In most instances, life has surprising and great ways of rewarding our courage. To live a sanguine life, commit to TODAY, taking steps for a better tomorrow, and be willing to make adjustments along the way.
The Feeling That Things Will Never Change
Feeling like things will never change probably means you’re not yet committed to making a change! You may feel like the difficult situations in your life could hold you back forever from reaching true happiness.
That feeling is exactly what holds many back from living a happy life.
Once you commit to letting go, accepting and/or moving on from what cannot be changed, then you dreams can start to take shape and become reality by taking small steps to change what you can, little by little.
Lending That Inside Voice An Ear
That voice you hear inside constantly repeating these words, “You aren’t special.” Or “You aren’t good enough”.
Learn to ignore the voice. Step outside your comfort zone and commit to what it is you most want for your life. That voice will often get much louder anytime you step out of your zone of comfort, or even begin to just contemplate it. Don’t let it take over!
Worries Over Money
I would venture to say a good majority of us worry about money. And those worries often prevent us from doing all that we want to do. Start thinking about what it is you really want in your life, what your priorities are – what your committed to – and outline what it will take for you to achieve your goals.
It may not happen overnight [it was four years of planning and budgeting before I up and moved to Costa Rica], but practice patience, practice presence and little by little, life often has a way of coming together… as long as you’re truly committed.
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Now over to you…
What’s keeping you from being happy?
Chrissy Gruninger is an author and mindset coach. She mentors people on how to live their ONE beautiful life, wherever they may be. Her latest book, Lost and Found in the Land of Mañana explores her life in Costa Rica and both the challenges of working and living abroad as well as the beautiful life we can create from those experiences.
She loves her rainforest beach shack in Costa Rica, the sunshine and the rain and passionately believes that through intentional actions we create more happiness, health and harmony in the world.
Her goal: to empower others to thrive in an imperfect world.