The one word you should give up
WHY WE SHOULD ALL CONSIDER GIVING UP THE WORD “TRY”
This month we’re exploring the Sanguine Element ‘Making a Commitment’ and I wanted to take this opportunity to share with you a change I made in my life last year.
In an effort to live a more intentional and committed life, I pledged to give up one short word, that seriously undermines the credibility of almost any sentence it sits in. I thought I’d share with you all what I did last year which turned out to be harder than I thought it would be.
When it comes to choosing our words, all too often, it’s like a rote task – we don’t even think about it.
It’s why in 2016, I mindfully gave up the word UGH (and still haven’t used it since). Doing so made me really think about what language I was using and how I wanted to be seen by those I was conversing with.
In 2017, I gave up another 3 letter word – “try”. That one was a whole lot harder, to be honest.
Since moving to Costa Rica in 2012, having someone say the word “try” to me has become a pet peeve of mine. It wasn’t something I ever noticed while living in California but in Costa Rica, I hear it all the time and I now know that what it really means is – it will never be done. The “it” being whatever the topic of conversation we were having was about.
- I’ll try to finish the project by Friday
- I’ll try to get you the larger bag of cat food
- I’ll try to visit you next week
- I’ll try to come over for dinner tonight
- I’ll try to pay you before I leave for Europe
- I’ll try to get your legal issues handled
I really can’t think of many instances where someone used the word “try” and the work or the event actually got done. Definitely not when they said they’d do it but often, not at all.
Here’s why: Try is a passive word. It doesn’t mean you’re actually committing to something.
- I will try to do that project tomorrow.
- I am finishing that project tomorrow.
- I will try to come over for dinner tonight.
- I am coming over for dinner tonight.
- I will try to pay you today.
- I just made payment.
See and feel the difference?
One is actively committing to an action while the other is saying – eh, maybe, not really sure, I want to see what other better things come up…
For me, that’s not how I want to live my life and treat others. And my hope that by sharing with you these examples, it will also give you a moment to pause and explore the idea.
Do or do not, there is no try. Yoda
Giving up the word try was not easy. I was constantly rewriting my emails and messages and blogs and I know there were a few that slipped by me.
The word ugh was probably easier as it isn’t used and ingrained in our everyday language as much as the word try is.
A serious conscious effort had to be made in order to excise the word try from my life.
And the result – I do feel better about what I’m saying, the actions I’m committing to and how I’m showing up and living my life.
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I’d love to hear from you… Make a conscious effort this week to give up the word TRY, then come back here and leave me a comment on what kind of impact it had on your daily life. g
Chrissy Gruninger is an author and mindset coach. She mentors people on how to live their ONE beautiful life, wherever they may be. Her latest book, Lost and Found in the Land of Mañana explores her life in Costa Rica and both the challenges of working and living abroad as well as the beautiful life we can create from those experiences.
She loves her rainforest beach shack in Costa Rica, the sunshine and the rain and passionately believes that through intentional actions we create more happiness, health and harmony in the world.
Her goal: to empower others to thrive in an imperfect world.