Here’s how to start moving forward again.
Hello my friends, welcome to Chapter 49 of Sanguine Stories. We’re wrapping up our month long look at Sanguine Element #9, how to live with purpose and vision.
Sometimes, life goes awry and your purpose in life may become blurry. Out of focus. Unclear.
It happens to all of us.
Life has a way of tripping you up, you lose focus and fall off the path. We are all human and we all make mistakes.
It may mean that you lost a job, or your reputation was called into question, a relationship ended or you just took a detour that perhaps wasn’t in your best interest.
When you fumble and fall in life, it’s what you do next that matters – not what you did in the past.
Here’s 3 ways to get you back on your feet and back on track:
- Avoid the urge to dwell on the mistake or situation.
You may have heard this before but it’s worth repeating: Ask yourself – will this still be an issue a year from now? Will I even remember this situation in a year?
Dwelling on your mistake will only leave you feeling miserable and helpless, which will not help you move forward. Take a pause and give yourself permission to take your mind off of it…
- Engage in things you love to do.
Do what you love. Sitting around wallowing about the mistakes you made will not help you in the long run. Get out and do something, anything to help you take your mind off the situation and help you re-focus on where you need to be. A little break from worrying can help you shift your perspective and return to the present moment with more clarity and motivation.
- Take it one day at a time.
As more time passes, you will likely realize that your mistake was just a misstep, and you will find your way back on the path of working towards your life goals and purpose.
Let’s say you lost your dream job, either you didn’t get the position or you made a mistake and were terminated… while that is scary in the moment, again I’m going to ask you to pause, reflect and realize that there will be more opportunities, if you’re open to seeking them out.
Back in my mid 20’s, I was fired from a job because they found out I had interviewed for another job with a competitor. Whoops. The other job, the one I was interviewing for, it was a coveted position for that industry. It was my dream job (at the time, for the industry I was working in – back then I was really just working to pay the bills rather than realize I could earn money and do what I love).
Okay, so I was fired, I was devastated, not only did the new job fall through but I was also suddenly unemployed! I had also just purchased my first home and bought a new car.
What a gigantic mess that was!
But then new opportunities arose. And it was actually during that time that I started exploring other options in life, really started thinking about my life and what I wanted to do. I found a similar “dream” job to tide me over and started working on becoming the person I wanted to be. To be able to live my dream life, doing what I love to do.
It was about 2 years later that I quit that “dream job”, moved to Northern California, went to grad school and truly started living my purpose.
Your next steps?
I’m going to say it again because it really is the key:
It’s what you do next that matters – not what you did in the past. Let it go. Accept what has happened and continue moving forward.
Focus on your purpose – who you want to be, what you want to do, where you want to go.
Create small, reachable goals for each day that are focused on what is most important: living your ONE beautiful life, on purpose.
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I’d love to hear from you… Have you ever felt like you got off-track in life? What helped you start living on purpose again?
Chrissy Gruninger is an author and mindset coach. She mentors people on how to live their ONE beautiful life, wherever they may be. Her latest book, Lost and Found in the Land of Mañana explores her life in Costa Rica and both the challenges of working and living abroad as well as the beautiful life we can create from those experiences.
She loves her rainforest beach shack in Costa Rica, the sunshine and the rain and passionately believes that through intentional actions we create more happiness, health and harmony in the world.
Her goal: to empower others to thrive in an imperfect world.