How to find your flow

And how to return to it

Three Simple Ways To Be In The Flow More Easily

Hello my friends, welcome to Chapter 38 of Sanguine Stories. This month we’ve been talking about being resilient. To wrap it all up, I wanted to share with you a few ways on how to find your flow in life.

You know that feeling when you’ve found your groove, energy flows through you and time flies by?

It’s often accompanied by a sense of deep, concentrated focus.

For many, that is not so easy to come by.

It’s the natural “flow” talked about and conceptualized by Mihaly Csikszentmyhalyi. Although he described it and named it “the flow,” this sensation and deep thought process has been around for as long as people have existed.

For me, I know I’m in the flow when I’m doing an activity and hours go by and I don’t even notice.  It’s most often when I’m writing or outdoors doing photography. I’ve been so in the flow at times that if I’m writing, I won’t even notice that the sun has set and I’m literally sitting in the dark.  Or that I completely missed lunch, and it’s now time for dinner.

Whenever I get in the flow, I feel so at ease, free and focused.  Work isn’t “work”. I am loving every minute that passes and am so much more productive.

But admittedly, I’m not always in the flow and that’s why I’m asking the question today:

What happens when your life is turned upside down and you feel like you can’t function, much less be in the flow?

Last month we talked about being more grounded and stable but sometimes, life really can go awry and if you haven’t built up your resiliency muscle, it can really feel like life is falling apart, crumbling around you [I know, I’ve experienced that firsthand].

You may feel this way one day when, just simply, nothing goes right, or you may feel this way after a major loss like losing your job or worse, losing your general sense of direction in life.

As normal as it is to become unfocused and out of flow, it still is distressing and distracting. How do you regroup, find your “flow,” “get your groove back,” or “get in the zone”?

However you put it, here’s 3 ways on how to find your flow when life becomes unfocused:

Find Something You LOVE Doing

You probably already have hobbies, right?

Hobbies, like:

  • Reading
  • Writing
  • Jogging
  • Knitting
  • Crafting
  • Playing leisurely games
  • Creating art

These all require some level of focus. If you love doing any of these things, find at least twenty minutes each day and do them.

You may discover that while you are actively participating in a focused hobby you love, your brain and body are going along for the ride. Suddenly, you will feel calm, focused, and ready to do anything. There you are, in the zone/flow/groove. And you never know, 20 minutes may turn into 2 hours and the results may be more than you could have ever anticipated!

Meditation or Daydreaming

Meditation or daydreaming may also help you find your “flow.” Meditation requires the slowing of your breath, which reduces sensations of stress, which then brings you to a point where you can concentrate on one problem at a time in a focused manner. Many people meditate and/or pray daily, and those that do often find that it really helps direct their paths because they are able to slow down their mind, be more present and consider options and solutions they did not think of before.

If meditation or prayer doesn’t sound quite right to you, daydreaming is another option. You are allowing your mind to wander. Just let go, and daydream about whatever you want. It does not matter what. You can imagine all kinds of scenarios in your head, both potentially real and highly unusual or dramatized. It allows you to release some of the negative feelings you have via the daydreams, instead of attempting to act on those negative feelings or respond to those feelings with more negativity.

Other Activities to Find and Be in the Flow

There are some other ways that might help you find your “flow” again.

They include:

  • Going on holiday to recharge your batteries
  • Intellectual pursuits that help you feel more accomplished and ready to do things
  • Working on puzzles that require a solution to be complete but also provide a sense of accomplishment or emotional reward upon completion
  • Walking, swimming, yoga or other light exercise
  • Listening to your favorite music or sounds of nature

Essentially, what you are trying to do is lull yourself into a place where the “work” has a sense of ease to it and you feel relaxed and able to do anything.

If you have ever felt this, then go back to that “activity,” time or place and do it all over again. Your flow is there–you just have to find your unique connection to it.

Life will always give us twists and turns but learning how to get into the flow, will enable us to handle those times with much more ease, comfort and grace.

Thank you for being a part of my community. Until next time, be simply sanguine.

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chrissy gruningerChrissy Gruninger is an author and mindset coach. She mentors people on how to live their ONE beautiful life, wherever they may be. Her latest book, Lost and Found in the Land of Mañana explores her life in Costa Rica and both the challenges of working and living abroad as well as the beautiful life we can create from those experiences.

She loves her rainforest beach shack in Costa Rica, the sunshine and the rain and passionately believes that through intentional actions we create more happiness, health and harmony in the world. 

Her goal: to empower others to thrive in an imperfect world.